Break the Pattern | If you grew up without your dad, you know the feeling that absence leaves in your heart. If you are a guy - make sure you don't do to your children what was done to you. Break the pattern of parental neglect. If you are a woman, choose your partner well. We tend to pick those who are as emotionally or physically unavailable as our own fathers or parental figures were. If this was your own situation growing up, be mindful of what you are choosing now as an adult.