The power dynamic matters! -------- ugh, same thing with "the only sexism/racism/etc is the one spread by women/poc/etc talking about the problem!" like, i have a trophy for you. its made of gold and has the words "critical research failure" on the sides
The 'ending' gender roles I don't like, because most kids and adults fit well in their gender roles and we can mske room for the outliers. But if you wont be happy untill gender roles are ended you will never be happy.
Just saying, I'm blond haired and blue eyed, and was bullied by people of color all through school. I acknowledge the hardships people of color face, but that doesn't mean we should give anyone a free pass for bullying anyone