The time just before we fully recover is the trickiest time for us, because it's the time when we still feel the emotional pull, and it's the time when we need gentle but firm parenting from ourselves to bring us back to the reality of the situation.
The symptoms of abuse are there, and the woman usually sees them: the escalating frequency of put-downs. Early generosity turning more and more to selfishness. Verbal explosions when he is irritated or when he doesn’t get his way. Her grievances.
we had a relationship therapist type thing come to our school and talk about what a unhealthy relationship or abusive relationship is, as i read the list it all applied to mine but i refused to believe it.