Growing up with a Narcissist means it's all about the outer image of a perfect family/ perfect parent. What goes on behind closed doors is not that at all. Often fear tactics are used to "control" and keep the "truth" from being told.
Narcissistic mothers make toxic families. Not just feeling emotionally distant, but told to be close and taught to be enemies. The contradictions in NPD parents are astounding, and you never know what to expect except more abuse.